Sharing Lovey

The stranger’s words rang in my head.

“My son doesn’t really like his little sister.”

“He’s jealous.”

“I don’t have her with me today because I wanted to have a nice day with him.”

His son was a little older than mine.

His daughter just turned one.

We were at the playground, our sons playing on a train.

This dad and I didn’t know each other.

But we were making small talk, in that way that parents of preschoolers do.

That awkward attempt by adults to chat while their children play.

To pass the time.

And to bond with someone who identifies with their situation, their life.

We discussed the boys.

He asked how old my baby was.

We talked about the transition from one child to two.

We both agreed it was harder than the adjustment with our first.

He told me how unhappy their son was.

During the past four months, my son has been challenging.

He’s confused, seeking clarification of his role in our family.

And the attention he has lost.

He’s also at a stage that is tough, developmentally.

He’s acted up. And out.

But I have never questioned whether he loves his sister.

He needs to hug her, hold her, kiss her.

If anything, I worry his affection may be too much for an infant.

But it is love, not dislike.

Tonight, as our family sat in his bed reading stories, he looked at his sister.

She smiled at him, as she does whenever she sees him.

And he handed his Lovey, a blanket toy, to her.

Lovey has been with him since he was six months old.

He cannot sleep without her. She goes to the pediatrician. He takes her every time he gets in the car.

She comforts him when he’s sad or tired or scared.

She is his constant.

His solace.

And tonight, he handed his Lovey to his sister.


He watched as the baby gnawed on her.

Teethed on her.

Laughed as his baby sister drooled on his treasured toy.

For a two and half year old, sharing is hard.

Sharing his Lovey, the object most close to his heart, is nearly impossible.

Unless, apparently, it’s with his sister.

22 Responses to Sharing Lovey
  1. Robin | Farewell, Stranger
    April 5, 2012 | 11:37 pm

    Oh! Did your heart burst?
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    • MamaTrack
      April 9, 2012 | 10:33 pm

      Yep, it sure did!

  2. Alison@Mama Wants This
    April 6, 2012 | 1:24 am

    Oh, sweet boy! He has a big heart.
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    • MamaTrack
      April 9, 2012 | 10:34 pm

      He does have a lovely heart. Lots of energy. 😉 But a lovely heart.

  3. Julia
    April 6, 2012 | 8:18 am

    That is so sweet, he is such a great big brother.
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    • MamaTrack
      April 9, 2012 | 10:34 pm

      He really is. Now if we could just get him to stop mauling her that would be awesome….

  4. JDaniel4's Mom
    April 6, 2012 | 8:43 am

    I so love that he is a giver! Happy Easter!
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    • MamaTrack
      April 9, 2012 | 10:35 pm

      Thank you! And I hope your Easter was lovely!

  5. Kimberly
    April 6, 2012 | 10:07 am

    Oh my son has already made it very clear that he is the only child.
    When we ask if he wants a sister or brother he literally pounds his feet on the ground and shouts “No. JUST ME!”
    If we ever have another, it’ll be the biggest kick to our groins ever.
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    • MamaTrack
      April 9, 2012 | 10:36 pm

      I think they all want to be an only child until the other arrives. And maybe even after. It’s a process, like adapting to any change, you know?

  6. Galit Breen
    April 6, 2012 | 5:08 pm

    Lovely love.

    That is all.
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    • MamaTrack
      April 9, 2012 | 10:36 pm

      Thank you, Galit. I appreciate that.

  7. chimomwriter
    April 6, 2012 | 10:33 pm

    Oooh… That’s big. And beyond precious.
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    • MamaTrack
      April 9, 2012 | 10:43 pm

      Thank you–I was so proud of him!

  8. ML@My 3 Little Birds
    April 7, 2012 | 9:00 pm

    What a good brother. But seriously, who could resist that sweet girl of yours?
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    • MamaTrack
      April 9, 2012 | 10:44 pm

      Thank you–I think she’s great too!

  9. The Mommy Psychologist
    April 8, 2012 | 2:52 am

    Wow! I’m very impressed with the little guy!
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    • MamaTrack
      April 9, 2012 | 10:45 pm

      I was too. Shocked, even.

  10. Jessica
    April 8, 2012 | 9:46 pm

    I feel sorry for that man who said his son doesn’t like his little sister. I hope they get past that. But it makes my heart happy to hear that the dude is so nice to share his lovey.
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    • MamaTrack
      April 9, 2012 | 10:45 pm

      I know, right? It was sad. But I’m happy for mine too.

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  12. Kir
    April 16, 2012 | 8:24 am

    This one touched me so much! Look at the amazing little boy you are raising. Plus with Gio and Jacob I see it often lately that. Bond, that support, that love for on another. I honestly think this is one of my favorite recent posts from you….I love the LOVE!!!! Xoo
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